Ugh… i am not sure i can sum up the past few weekends… been quite a blur… I know one of my dear friends is leaving to work in another city… gonna miss Mr. Funnyman… He’ll be back… but gonna be a few months. We went to party a bit… I do remember finding out that massage parlor spas give HORRIBLE massages at 4 am … and those masseuse’s are NOT certified and certainly overpriced! They don’t even speak English properly!
In other personal achievements in happiness… i’ve been on a kick lately where i’m going out to bars alone … now… mind you i did this ALL THE TIME when i was in my early 20s…. but i haven’t done it in almost 10 years…. Very different. for starters i’m now entering the age where i’m potentially the creepy old guy in the corner scoping out the chicks. There are some tricks i’ve found to make it work.
1) quit staring and gawking around. don’t fidget.
2) walk into a club…. take a quick assessment of the environment, and notice the people that make eye contact with you.
3) pick one of the said people, go get a drink… and walk near them. (the key here is that whichever you pick… once you engage them… all others just saw you try/crash/burn.. and no longer open to communicate with the creepy stalker in the room… you in this situation).
4) engage them in conversation… (at this point no more than roughly 10 min have gone by since you entered the place)….. there’s a lapse of time i’ve noticed even when going into places with friends… where people walk around and don’t actually get noticed or spotted who they are with.. essentially out in the open and alone…. thus avoiding the “creep” stereotype.
5) if your charming, witty and fun…. you’ll hit things off and no one will care you came in alone.
6) if you crash and burn, finish your drink, and promptly leave. quit being a creep.
So why do i bother with this? well, it’s a massive ego boost. not people or potential partnering with the opposite sex. trust me, it’s common to crash/burn… but more that I’M controlling my environment. the night is in my hands, and the events are under the hand that deals my fate and mine alone. I don’t need to manage other friends’ expectations or plans…. just go… do what i want. the freedom is empowering. On top of that, I can be my TRUE self. no one else to ask me a question or drink with…. I can rekindle that “hunter’s” groove… or fluke and trip over my own feet…. that feeling that… something just happened that I controlled… and i don’t have to explain it to anyone else.
two weekends ago, i got in an argument with a woman … because I’m romanian! hot asian/american girl. I chat her up… we flirt. then she asks where i’m from. romania. she starts cursing! and pushing me. Apparently she owns a laundromat and was robbed by some Romanian online thieves from NYC. wooo big surprise. when i mention to her that “us romanians seem to do it mostly to asians of chinese descent… i wonder why chinese fall for it so much?” she got EVEN MORE riled up… to where she took a swing at me….
Then last weekend I very slyly made up for my mishaps by getting a sweet little dolly…. whom i’m likely to have a few drinks with soon. I love how she touched me and put her hand on my chest when we talked within the first few min… . those little affections from a stranger, along with her smile and wittiness really sealed the deal. Granted she loves to hula hoop at the age of 30 … but who am i to judge with those curves! So, one good and one bad.
OH! and the icing on the cake? Spending time with a friend I haven’t really gotten to know closely until recently. Wowza…. she’s quite the looker. Not sure if we’re so compatible… i do things like read and she does things like giggle….
Now… Tomorrow is a big day…. the Mighty Thor comes out! Review post pending!