Last Night i went out with this mixed chick. culturally mixed…. i was rushed to get out of the date as I had to work… which sprung on my at the last minute by surprise…. so i didn’t have a chance to let out on her… but she got me fuming…
Basically, she comes from a similar background as me in some ways… impoverished country… family had to work hard to make a life here… i can tell she’s a hard worker….
but all she showed me was a materialistic view… . When i told her i switched from Finance to IT, she immediately asked “is it cause you can make more money?” nooooo…. it’s cause i enjoy it…. that confused her… she had this look on her like she just crapped her pants…. “who does that!?!?” her facial expression said. yeah….
here’s a hint… often times and in many cultures, the man is expected to pay… and ESPECIALLY since i was late and had to cut our date short… absolutely i was gonna pay… but…. ladies…. if it’s a first date… have some decency to not blatantly make it obvious your on the date for money.
She picks the restaurant. nice gesture… really appreciate she saves me time. and stress. yeah… right. it’s a place where every entree is $40. she’s not even phased. right when the bill comes? she has to go to the bathroom. again, i knew i’m paying for the date… no big deal… but really? If i go on 3 dates a week… like this… i’d be out about $400 a week… … $1,600 a month.think about that.
She had the audacity to ask me if my place has a Jacuzzi. and then tried to convince me that i shouldn’t get rid of my car cause $600 a month for something i only drive once a month is worth it. Really? she rides public transportation….., why?
I’m not judging… everyone has their reasons… and i’m guessing as she’s similar to many women in my country… i’m not gonna blame her. she needs someone to take care of her… at least that’s what she showed me. which is fine… there are all kinds of people…. my ex wife wasn’t too indipendent on her own either…and while we didn’t work out…i still respect her… but i also have my view of the world and what i believe is important in a relationship.