This roppongi night was funny…. i was still enamored by the woman i met last night… so i was mostly just spending time out and seeing what this town has to offer….
a few ground rules…
1) DO NOT SHOW UP TOO LATE!
i showed up to roppongi at 2 AM… the parties get going around 11:30 / midnight. which is when most people come…. of course you don’t wanna be first… but coming extremely late… means everyone has met a match and already trashed and ready to walk out the door to a love hotel…. showing up at 2 am… is like showing up to an orgy after everyone’s fallen asleep.
2) KNOW YOUR MARKET
contrary to any cock-eyed guy worth his salt in hookups…. you cannot get anyone you want. get that through your head. as a young kid i thought i could have my choice of the litter. no. i thought that simply cause i was more shy…(sounds contradictory but stick with me)… just i didn’t know what to say… but i did thing that once things got going… i’m a shoo-in. As a teenager / younger adult… its easier cause girls come up to you… or you notice a girl looking at you… so you make conversation. all well and good.
As an adult with self confidence… i just casually walk up to ANY girl i see that i fancy. start up with my lines. The problem with this, is there is a lack of consideration of whether she’s interested. this sounds common sense… but it’s surprising how many guys think this is ok or the way to go about it. Often, we choose the “numbers” game. spreading our pickup lines to 100 women and hoping one bites. while this ultimately works… it’s tiring and wasteful.
a better approach is to pay attention. see who’s watching you… make eye contact. smile… THEN approach. you’ll spend less time blowing your load and less insulting people.
3) DON’T BE INTIMIDATING
I went to a kogyaru club…. most of kogyaru are not used to foreigners. while all girls there looked at me and heard quite a bit of positive comments in between friends… even smiles at me… the moment i’d talk to one… she’d shy away. i asked one if i was bothering her… and she ran away. 🙂 Her friend… said to me “hito mi sugii… dakara iiya to omou…. ” this basically means… not quite shy… but simply… she doesn’t want the pressure of dealing with someone unknown in front of all her friends. the culture is very different… i’m white… she’s japanese gyaru amongst other gyaru girls…. i’m tall… she’s short… i’m older…. etc. basically everyone would stare at her… she didn’t want that.
had i been more casual… not in a suit…. not so towering over her…. not such a …. PRESENCE… things would have been a bit easier….
4) DRESS APPROPRIATELY
don’t wear a suit to an irish bar. gotta stop doing that ….. it might get people to move out of your way… but everyone will think your just weird.
Ciao, Thanks for your stories about Japan. That sounds so good and hot…. how are the chicks? Any more details of your night adventures with beautiful Japanese ladies? What about tonight?
Ciao Paolo from Roma, Italy
Hey Paolo…. i think depends on how you want to have fun. Japan is interesting. Girls here are still somewhat reserved… so no matter what you still have to talk and be friendly and polite and often need to be able to communicate with them. some of them are just looking for fun…. i guess more than in america or europe… but in general they are still looking for “relationship”…. if your looking for just having fun… i’d recommend a country like thailand more…. the image of japan and the “hot girls to bang” stopped about 10 years ago. I’d say that while japanese girls are quicker to get in bed… you’ll notice that with it comes a price… namely that you cannot just leave …. they are very good at getting under your skin and bringing emotions out…. you start to “care” for them. I have a lot of fun here… but that’s cause i speak the language and i know a lot of the nuances and subtleties. I know when it’s just “play” and when its serious…. its very hard to tell the difference at first. when i first came to Japan… i had a lot of girls show up at my apartment angry…. cause they felt i was “cheating” … but i didn’t even realize they thought of me that way. now… not so much… i know to be honest and avoid the drama. even if i don’t say “honest” words directly… they can tell by body language. so when meeting someone here… it’s important to make it clear what your intentions are… not so much with words… but body language and actions.
in general guys are scared to say “let’s just have fun…” cause they think the girl will stop…. but in Japan… many many girls “just want fun”. so … i’d say show that…. and get that… then you can move on to what you really want and the people you really want to be with.
The girl in the article you commented on… actually i really liked her…. so i’d have to say it was more than “just fun”. but…. surely more “just fun” will come soon enough.
good luck by the way! if you head to japan… let me know… i can recommend some bars and clubs…
Can you also describe the girls in more details? really want to go to Japan to meet these chicks. Who is you next target….. details please
Paolo
The story at Kogyaru club… sounds like “Gyaru in Roppongi is craving for Gaijin” is slowly changing… for me, it seemed they come to Roppongi just to hang out with friends, like Roppongi is not so special area to do something with gaijin… it’s like general place to drink and talk to friends at…