so… get in touch with a stranger… talk barely through 3 or 4 emails .. all within a few hours… and next thing you know they are over and ready to be physically intimate.
figured its for fun.. why not?
assuming both are mature adults and understanding.
a few days later in a stupor… get some drunken messages asking to be in a relationship!!?!?!?!?
now my problem with that is… the person is either… really naive… to think that intimacy equals relation… or they are setting a trap. trap you ask? yes. sleep with someone the first night because your lonely and seeking affection, then ask them to continue holding affection simply based on the premise that you slept with them! but… in reality you are tricking them into something they dont’ wanna do. if they are kind… they will respect you, and will feel guilty to reject you… as they will feel responsible for the effect they caused on you. so… unless they are a jerk… and one should never assume people are evil… you are setting a trap to guilt them into providing you something they are not ready to give….
and one might say “hell, its your problem! don’t blame me for what your unable to overcome and feel guilt over…” But … blame is a harsh word. People SHOULD live their life in accordance to caring, kindness, and compassion for others. under all circumstances to whatever degree you can muster. if we are to be civilized…..
talk about it a bit… they seem to admire how honest you are and recognize you are looking out for their best interest. they admit to actually secretly wishing to be in a relationship… NOT with you… but just in general… they long to be an “upstanding” citizen.
that means… in 99% of situations… that the person is tormented between what they wanna do appropriately… and what they wanna do for fun. they claim to be conservative, but are intimate and sexual. its possible… but doesn’t go hand in hand.
a few days later pass… and they come onto you … with a request for sexual gratification… AFTER you’ve already claimed your uncomfortable with it due to their inability to stay focused on having fun and being platonic…. and also the demons they constantly battle inside….
all of a sudden, they feel your think too deep into it? how so? its not too deep. pretty simple and superficial… its just a reaction to what your seeing, and a desire for self preservation. I’m just avoiding having to deal with MORE uncontrollable bursts of emotion later on. its not too serious at all. quite the opposite… working hard to keep it light. Chivalry is dead indeed.
It was killed by American women.